Submitting to one another in the fear of God. (Ephesians 5:21, NKJV)
Even after our 58 years of marriage, life threw us some curves for which we tried to prepare but there were noticeable differences. To prepare us for these unexpected twists my wife and I developed a pattern of mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21) based on our God-given skills, abilities, and natural talents.
We also strive to obey the roles defined in Ephesians 5:22-32 for the husband and wife. As examples my wife cooks meals, cleans the house, and provides nursing care; I pay the bills, handle correspondence, and do the laundry.
After nearly six decades of marriage and as a result of my wife’s back surgery, God, in His infinite wisdom, He saw fit to add a few new and unfamiliar tasks to my agenda. I prepared the meals, but the food on the table now lacked the special flavors that characterized my wife’s culinary skills. I tried to clean the house, but the result did not meet my love’s high standards. I treated her wounds, but found I violated sterile nursing procedure. Although I did not meet her high expectations, she appreciated my loving care because she understood I was expressing my love for her in the best way I knew how.
My tasks were changed, I tried to cope.
I did my best; I could only hope.
Knowing it was only for a spell.
My wife responded very well.
Disrupted work assignments require major adjustments.
- Describe a time in your marriage or life when you faced a major change in tasks.
- How did you respond? How did those who worked with you react?
- Discuss the differences between the roles assigned to the husband and wife described in Ephesians 5.
- What tasks have you and your mate worked out for each other to do?